Friday, July 17, 2009

dh ada anak buah ker? mcm tak caya...

Lahir 1/1/2009...Baby new year...comey, ada lesung pipit, sama mcm umi dia...baik budak nyer...susah nk tgk dia buat perangai...Kalau demam pon, x merengek mcm budak2 lain...senang umi dia nk jaga...

Ha...yg ni agresif sket...=)...dulu masa baru lahir, mmg kuat nangis...but now dh xbape nangis, kna pggil nama Aishah Humaira br dia tenang...dh pndai merajuk dgn ibu dia sndiri smpai tanak pndang muka ibu dia...kalo time lapo, sblh tgn leh masuk mulut dia...ishh...

2-2 mmg comey...geram tgk budak2 ni...suka je nk main dgn dorg...besar nnt jd org berguna tau...

part-time make up gal =)

Hihihi...Amacam? Ok tak budak Baiti tu aku solekkan?
Hurmm ekceli she's my cousin...adik lg tuh...dah kawin pon...along dia bila plak yer??? Baiti adalah org ke-2 yg aku conteng2 muka dia utk satu majlis yg besar...taggungjawab besar gak tuh, tp dh dia sungguh2 nk suh aku conteng muka dia yg comey tu...aku sbg kakak...mengalah la...ikut la kehendak dia...smpai snggup aku skip kursus selama satu hari gara2 nk balik kmpung nk mekapkan mmg sbnrnya aku dh apply cuti utk hari tu pon...tetiba je dpt invitation g training kat CP Tower PJ tuh....abis sumer plan rosak...hurmmm

Amacam Atiey? Ada puas ati...sorry if along tergesa2 nk balik smula ke KL...dan mnyebabkan along rushing dlm mekap2 ni...sbnrnya, along pon tensen time tgh conteng muka Atiey lps akad nikah tu...nak tau nape? Sbb ramai sgt org yg duk menempel skali nk tgk Atiey bersiap...mgganggu konsentrasi btol...dh la tuh, ramai plak mengeluarkan haba...bilik tu plak xbape nk cukup, bila dh bahang tu...mula la nk berpeluh...along berpeluh, along x kisah, bila Atiey pon berpeluh sama, yg ni yg sakit sket ni...Along kna touch up balik mn2 part kat muka tuh hok cair dek kerana peluh...hurmmm...sorry beribu2 sorry...

Tp, papehal pon...along nk bgtau...u look gorgeous! Tambah plak dgn bakat Along menconteng muka tu...hahaha...riak ler plak...ishhh x baik...mengucap! hehehehe...So, lps ni sape2 ada nk kna conteng muka lg? hurm sila book dulu yer...memandangkan saya sgt ler biziiiii...hihihihi...

OK puasa dh nk dekat ni...sape2 ada niat nk tempah biskut raya, sila2 la jenguk blog nih...ada suprise nnti...daaaa...

Thursday, July 16, 2009

Choosing a life partner..

Ekceli, this comes from email of mein schatz.
Jom kita baca.

by Dov Heller, M.A.

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%,it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: 'We're in love'; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound 'not politically correct', there's aprofound truth here.Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: 'You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone'; You need a lot more!!!

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious aboutfinding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?
Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do youplan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or (2)you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart.To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life!Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?
This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship.Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust â€' i.e.. trust that I won't get 'punished'; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom youfeel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch?A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person.
How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as 'someone who is always striving to be good and do the right ';. So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable willput personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people?
The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self absorbed?To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxidrivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?
Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to 'improve'; them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it: 'You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse' If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them. In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous.The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues.Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself trouble because you didn't do your homework.

Another perspective...There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not going anywhere relationships.

Observe the relationships around you.Pay attention...Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill?When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?Which ones dont appreciate you?Which ones make you feel good, praises you, boosts you with loving and caring words or annotations.The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who getsto sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.An African proverb states, 'Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye';

Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity,ignorance, pressure from others or a low self esteem make you blind towarning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.Do you bring out the best in each other?Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?What do you bring to the relationship?Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?

You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.If you develop self esteem, spiritual discernment, and 'a life'; you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

6. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes,etc.)

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace.

Tuesday, July 07, 2009

Aku mesti kuat! Yakin Allah Maha Adil atas tiap sesuatu...

Tidak...jodoh tiada kaitan dengan keturunan. Hanya belum sampai masanya. Ia bagai menanti jambatan untuk ke seberang. Kalau panjang jambatannya jauhlah perjalanan kita. Ada org jodohnya cepat sebab jambatannya singkat. Usia 25 tahun rasanya belumlah terlalu lewat. Dan usia 35 tahun belum apa2 kalau sepanjang usia itu telah digunakan untuk membina kecemerlangan. Nyatakanlah perasaan dan keinginan anda itu dalam doa2 lewat sembahyang. Allah mendengar. Wanita baik untuk lelaki yang baik, sebaliknya wani ta jahat untuk lelaki yang jahat. Biar lambat jodoh asalkan mendapat Mr Right dan biar seorang diri drpd menjadi mangsa lelaki yang tidak beriman kemudian nanti. Memang kita mudah tersilap mentafsir kehidupan ini. Kita selalu sangka,aku pasti bahagia kalau mendapat ini. Hakikatnya, apabila kita benar2 mendapat apa yang kita inginkan itu, ia juga dtg bersama masalah. Kita selalu melihat org memandu kereta mewah dan terdetiklah di hati kita, bahagianya org itu. Hakikatnya apabila kita sendiri telahmemiliki kereta mewah kita ditimpa pelbagai kerenah. Tidak mustahil pula org yang memandu kereta mewah(walaupun sebenarnyatak mewah) terpaksa membayar lebih tatkala berhenti untuk membeli durian di tepi jalan. Orang lain membeli dengan harga biasa, dia terpaksa membayar berlipat ganda.

Ketika anda terperangkap dalam kesesakan jalan raya, motosikal mencelah-celah hingga mampu berada jauh di hadapan. Anda pun mengeluh, alangkah baiknya kalau aku hanya menunggang sebuah motosikal seperti itu dan cepat sampai ke tempat yang dituju. Padahal si penunggang motosikal mungkin sedang memikirkan bilakah dia akan memandu kereta di tgh2 bandar raya. Bukan semua yang anda sangka membahagiakan itu benar2 membahagiakan. Bahagianya mungkin ada tapi deritanya juga datang sama. Semua benda, pasti ada baik buruknya.

Demikian juga perkahwinan. Ia baik sebab ia dibenarkan oleh agama, sunnah Nabi, sebagai saluran yang betul untuk melepaskan shahwat di samping membina sahsiah dan sebagainya, tapi ia juga buruk sebab ramai org yang berkahwin hidupnya semakin tidak terurus. Ramai orang menempah neraka sebaik sahaja melangkahkan kaki ke alam berumahtangga. Bukankah dengan ijab dan Kabul selain menghalalkan hubungan kelamin, tanggungjawab yang terpaksa dipikul juga turut banyak? Bukankah apabila anda gagal melaksanakannya, anda membina dosa seterusnya jambatan ke neraka?

Berapa ramaikah yang menyesali perkahwinan masing2 padahal dahulunya mereka bermati-matian membina janji, memupuk cinta kasih malah ada yang sanggup berkorban apa sahaja asalkan segala impian menjadi nyata? Jika tidak sanggup untuk bergelar isteri tidak usah berkahwin dulu. Jika merasakan diri belum cukup ilmu untuk bergelar ibu ataupun ayah,belajarlah dulu. Jika rasa2 belum bersedia untuk bersabar dgn kerenah anak2, carilah dulu kesabaran itu. Jangan berkahwin dahulu sebabkenyataannya ramai yang tidak bersedia untuk melangkah tetapi telah melompat, akhirnya jatuh terjerumus dan tidak jumpa akar berpaut tatkalacuba mendaki naik. Berkahwin itu indah dan nikmat bagi yang benar2 mengerti tuntutan2nya.

Berkahwin itu menjanjikan pahala tidak putus2 bagi yang menjadikannya gelanggang untuk mengukuhkan iman, mencintai Tuhan dan menjadikan syurga sebagai matlamat. Berkahwin itu sempadan dari ketidaksempurnaan insan kepada kesempurnaan insan - bagi yang mengetahui rahsia2nya. Berkahwinlah anda demi Tuhan dan Nabi-Nya, bukan berkahwin kerana perasaan dan mengikut kebiasaan. Jodoh usah terlalu dirisaukan, tiba masanya ia akan datang menjemput, namun perlu juga anda membuka lorong2nya agar jemputan itu mudah sampai dan tidak terhalang.

“Kadang2 Allah sembunyikan matahari....Dia datangkan petir dan kilat....kita menangis dan tertanya-tanya, kemana hilangnya sinar.. Rupa2nya.. Allah nak hadiahkan kita pelangi...”
p/s: Kuatkah aku???Kekadang aku berjaya mngawal emosi dan perasaan, namun sesekali aku tewas bergelar insan. Ya Allah, usah bebankan kami, dgn bebanan yg berat...Ya Allah, usah pikulkan kami, dgn yg tidak kami terdaya...

Saturday, July 04, 2009

wondergirl versi lelaki...hehehe...i want nobody but you...


Nape tgk muka dorg cam sama?
Ke mmg org yg sama ek?
hurmmm...musykil... :)

mkn durian + sg. Gabai...hurmm mcm menarik!

Last weekend, aku, kak meem, ara, fatimah, kak keen, and my dear hosmet Anis g mkn durian kat sg. Lui...Nama tempat tu, Cafe @ Lui...Best!...kitorg kna byr RM20 setiap sorg, then leh mkn durian suka2 hati jek...mkn la byk mn nk mkn selagi larat...u all leh check ~sini~ kalo nk tgk gmbo kitorg...hehehe...giler glemer masuk blog org...Thanx datin, layan kami budak2 yg over excited jmpa durian ni. Almaklumla dh lama xmkn durian aritu...tu pasal sggup dtg jauh2 semata2 nk mkn durian kat cafe datin...Ok i paste photo utk tatapan semua...have fun!Ha...yg baju pink tu la datin...lupa lak nama datin tuh...sorry...hehehe..time ni kitorg br lps amik bekpes, b4 nk melantak durian tu...aku order ice lemon tea, utk hilangkan loya mkn durian lps ni..Yang ni pula adalah antara menu2 yg disediakan kat Cafe Lui ni. FYI, Cafe Lui ni hnya buka weekend je tau! Sbb weekdays, anak2 dia kerja..bagusnya dorg wat bisnes family mcm ni, di samping leh tmbh income, boleh merapatkan silaturrahim sesama family. Ni la sample durian yg kitorg mkn...comey2 isinyer...rasa pon sedap! Macam nk mkn lagi je :)Makan punyer la x cuma sebahagian biji2 durian yg kitorg mkn ni...cuba tgk jari masing2...sumer dh tembam sbb mkn durian byk...hahahaPose terakhir yg meletop dr kak meem b4 kitorg berangkat ke Sg. Gabai...bukan nk g mandi pon...saje nk releasekan perot yg dh sebu dgn durian yg byk...lebih tepat ayat yg nk gna, JALAN² CARI PASAL